Wednesday, December 29, 2010

A Continuing Struggle of Wants vs. Needs

This year has been a study in Wants vs. Needs for me. If you missed it and you're interested, you can read about it here. However, this struggle between wants and needs is a bit different.

I've been somewhat at odds with the Universe for a few months and I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who feel as though they've also gotten a bad deal lately, but I'm tired of being resigned to my fate. Although the things I'm doing may not change how the Universe deals with me, I'm blogging about my side of things just to get my message out there.

I started with my "personal ad" and will build upon that. If there's any mistaking what it is I'm looking for, I can point to my blog archive as documentation. So, if the Universe ever sees fit to send an available man along who is actually attracted to me, here's my view on wants vs. needs as it pertains to relationships.

I can remember Pepe saying to me once, "You don't need anybody" and I guess that's true. There are very few things in life which are needed to survive.....and as cold as it may seem, another person isn't one of them. One may be sad or lonely but the heart will go on beating and the sun will continue to rise and set.

The bottom line is this. I'd much rather be wanted than needed. Want implies the person has a choice. Out of all the people in the world, that person chooses to be with me. Not out of some perceived necessity. A need is something you don't have a choice about, at least by definition. And although I think many people use the word "need" in place of "want", I think language should be used more deliberately.

I want to be wanted. It's really just that simple.

Monday, December 20, 2010

Female seeks Male

Youthful 39 yo woman with ever-changing hair color and tattoos seeks companion.

I am:
Formerly low-maintenance
Peace-seeking loner
Lover of stars and the night sky
Reader of books
Writer of blogs
Kind of a big deal
Prefers optimism
Excellent Cook
Fiercely loyal
Neurotic planner
Confirmed geek
Prefers mutually exclusive commitment over marriage
Prefers honesty over all else

You must be:
Available [that about sums it up]*

Oh....and you should agree that Empire Strikes Back is the best movie of the SW franchise.

*this means no girlfriends (live-in or otherwise), no fiances, no wives, no married but separated and not in negotiations.